Denise shares Part 1 of a conversation between Dr Lucy Hone and renowned grief expert, Dr Tom Attig, who explains the flaws in the stages model of grief. He shares how significant loss shatters our world and requires us to re-learn how to live in the work, and to rebuild our connections in new ways. He encourages us to pay attention to the resilience most people still display even at their lowest ebb.

Listen as Tom discusses ‘loving in separation’: keeping bonds and connections with loved ones who have died.


Dr Thomas Attig has dedicated the last twenty-five years to listening to mourners, teaching and reflecting on how we come to terms with loss and is widely acknowledged for his revised theory of grief. He is the author of The Heart of Grief: Death and the Search for Lasting Love and How We Grieve: Relearning the World, both with Oxford. Tom has made a significant contribution to the field through his work on grief and loss, care of the dying, suicide intervention, death education, expert witnessing in wrongful death cases, the ethics of interactions with the dying, and the nature of applied philosophy. A Past President of the Association for Death Education and Counseling, and a former Emeritus Professor of Philosophy at Bowling Green State University, he also served as Vice-Chair of the Board of Directors of the International Work Group on Death, Dying, and Bereavement.